Marriage - Need for a change

No doubt - INDIAN MARRIAGE - is one of the best systems in this whole world. It's a proven system and stood the tests of time. It is very strong - because, it has deeply rooted it's base into SANATANA DHARMA.

SANATANA DHARMA - proposes dif...ferent purification ceremonies, right from the Birth of a person to the Death of the person - to drive the soul and the body towards the fulfillment of the basic objective - SELF REALIZATION.

Marriage is considered to be the best and safest way to reach that state of self-realization and the 'highest order purification ceremony' for a person - be it male or female.

But during the course of time, any system would need refinement.

It's time today's Younger generation understands - what exactly MARRIAGE is meant for, how to get marriage conducted and how NOT to get a marriage conducted.

 

 There need to be a lot of changes to be incorporated into today's MARRIAGE system to really get benefited out of such a wonderful system.

 

SANATANA DHARMA - Asram's

As per SANATANA DHARMA, there are 4 stages (ASRAM) in an age-based social system -
# Brahmacharya (student life)
# Grihastha (household life)
# Vanaprastha (retired life)
# Sannyasa (renounced life)

Any person should fall into one of these phases of life, at a given point of time.

Of all these, other three asram's heavily depend on GRIHASTHA ASRAM. So, it's the family system that a married couple runs - that gets peace and prosperity into the society.

Every bride and bride-groom should be made to clearly understand this, before entering wedlock. Their role as a married couple is not just crucial for their lives, but also for the society around.


 Any person in GRIHASTHA ASRAM is more exposed to the materialistic aspects of life naturally. In fact, this is perfectly acceptable as per DHARMA. The person should do all his/her duties whole-heartedly and happily, but should slowly learn to dedicate all the deeds and actions to God.

Janaka Maharaja (Father of Sitamma Talli) is a perfect example of GRIHASTHA who lead a balanced life as a family man, as a king and as a RISHI (dedicating all his actions and deeds to Almighty deep within).

శ్రీమన్నారాయణ స్వామీ

ఓ శ్రీమన్నారాయణ స్వామీ,

 

 # ధర్మ సంస్థాపనకి, నిర్వహణకి తిరుగులేని మార్గ దర్శకత్వం వహించాల్సిన దేవాలయాల వ్యవస్థ - కమిటీ రాజకీయాలతో, అవినీతి పరులతో నిర్వీర్యం అయితే,
# ధార్మికమైన విద్య లేని బీదరికంలో నా దేశం ప్రజలు మగ్గిపోతూ ఉంటే,
# ఏడాది పసి ...కందు దగ్గర నుంచీ అరవై ఏళ్ల వృద్ధురాలి వరకు అందరినీ పాపపు దృష్టితో చూసే మానసిక రోగులు అడుగడుగునా నిర్భయం గా తిరుగుతూ ఉంటే,
# అబలలు, గర్భిణుల మీద కిరాతకమైన హేయమైన నేరాలు చేసి, ప్రాణాలు తీస్తున్న కిరాతకులు ఉరి శిక్ష పడకుండా నిర్భీతితో సమాజంలో తిరుగుతూ ఉంటే,
# పసి పిల్లలు, అంగ వికలురు అనే తేడా లేకుండా బలహీనులని హింసించి ఆనందించే నీచ రాక్షస ప్రవ్రుత్తి కల మనుషులు లోకం అంతా నిండి పోతుంటే,
# ప్రపంచం మీద ఆధిపత్యం కోసం ప్రచ్చన్న యుద్ధాలు చేస్తూ, నడుమ అమాయకుల నిండు జీవితాలని గాలిలోనే తగలబెట్టిన దుష్టుల వేడుకలు పెచ్చరిల్లి పోతుంటే,
# డబ్బు కోసం బలహీనుల ప్రాణాలు మట్టుబెట్టే నీచులు స్వైర విహారం చేస్తుంటే,
# ధర్మాన్ని, న్యాయాన్ని నిలబెట్టగల అన్ని వ్యవస్థలు మేధావుల చేత తయారు చెయ్యబడి కూడా దౌర్జన్యం కోరల్లో సామాన్యుడు ఆక్రోశిస్తుంటే,

కలియుగం ప్రథమ పాదమే ఇంత దారుణంగా ఉంటే, నాలుగు పాదాల కలియుగం పూర్తయ్యే దాకా కల్కి అవతారంలో రాను అని చెప్పకు స్వామీ ! కత్తి పట్టుకుని వస్తావో, కలం పట్టుకుని వస్తావో, జ్ఞాన జ్యోతితోనే వస్తావో - మమ్మల్ని చీకటి నుంచి వెలుగుకి నడిపించు తండ్రీ !

Ideal marriage - SANATANA DHARMA

Modern day marriages are no way nearer to the ideal marriage ceremony that SANTANA DHARMA proposed and reaffirmed.

Opposite to how it is happening in these modern days, SANATANA DHARMA proposed the following -

# It's the father of the bride-groom who should search for a bride for his son.

# The main criteria for marriage would be - culture & life-style (SAMPRADAYA) of the family, existence of righteous people / devoted elders in the family. It's neither wealth nor prestige that should be considered.

# The father of the bride has the complete authority over the event of the marriage - as he holds the major responsibility of the marriage. Everybody - including the bride-groom's family - should obey him. In return, the father of the bride also should be courteous enough.

# Nobody should hurt / cause pain to the other in a marriage ceremony.

 # As per SANATANA DHARMA, marriage is not a ceremony of 'moving' a girl from her family to her husband's family. She is still the loving member of both the families. It's the UPASANA of Sri Maha Vishnu into the bride-groom & Sri Maha Lakshmi into the bride, done by bride's father; and getting them married for a life of companionship with DHARMA (righteousness), ARTHA (offspring) and KAMA (fulfilled materialistic aspects) working towards MOKSHA.

# Once the marriage gets materialized, the bride assumes complete authority and ownership of her husband's family. As the bride leaves her surname behind and follows her husband, all the respect and prosperity of her husband's family completely belong to her. Ideally, every earning of husband belongs to wife.

# When a married woman has to introduce herself anywhere - she should mention the name of her father-in-law first, before mentioning her husband / father / mother.

# For the father-in-law and mother-in-law, the daughter-in-law should become the first priority over their own daughter/son.

# And the family system connects generations to generations - with the 'responsible authority' of the family moving from mother-in-law to daughter-in-law, with mother-in-law gracefully handing over to daughter-in-law.

SANATANA DHARMA truly recognized the importance of a woman in the family and proposed right attitude, patience & behavior for a married couple to live up-to these VALUES.

These are misinterpreted to a level today that - women are deprived of their basic rights, as well newly created legal acts started spoiling the family system.

Nemili Sri Bala Peetham

NEMILI Sri Bala Peetam - is a household which Mother Sri Bala Tripura Sundari herself chose to stay, at Nemili village, about 24 KM away from Kancheepuram, Tamilnadu.

It's considered to be one of the most holy places of Mother Goddess, where the presence of Mother Bala's affection is clearly felt by many devotees.

It was almost 100 years back that Mother Bala appeared in the dream of a great devotee Sri Subramania Iyer and informed him of her arrival into his house. In the next three days, Sri Iyer got a Bronze idol of 3-inch size of Sri Bala in the streams of the river passing by the side of his house. Mother Bala's idle was consecrated in the middle of their house.

From then onwards, Bala Peetam became one of the most sacred places of worship for Mother Goddess. 

Kanchi Paramacharya Sri Sri Sri Chandrasekharendra Saraswathi Swamy also visited this Peetam along with his disciples, and worshipped Mother Bala for three days. He felt the presence of all the Gods and Goddesses at this Peetam.

There are many special things to mention about Mother Bala at Nemili -
# One can visit this Peetam only if Mother Bala wants them to visit
# By praying to Mother Bala, numerous people got rid of their problems, which otherwise were impossible to resolve
# Mother's NAIVEDYAM here are - chocolates and biscuits. Devotees who visit the temple get the same as PRASADAM
# Mother Bala came to this abode - out of affection, more than devotion
# Mother expects the devotees to visit her out of affection, with no money/gifts offered. If anybody visits her with offerings, Mother gets disappointed

This is a great place for a devotee who wants to experience the real affection of Mother in the form of Bala and get immersed in the pure innocent love of Bala.

Courtesy of content and images: Nemili Sri Bala Peetam

Kakinada - Amma Bala Tripura Sundari

The most beautiful ALANKARAM of Mother Sri Bala Tripura Sundari Devi, Suryarao Peta, Kakinada.

 

Balambika Aradhana

A child gets anger when Mom/Dad try to correct his/her naughty deeds. In the next minute, the child forgets everything and starts playing with Mom/Dad.

 

 Children represent that pure and innocent state of mind, which doesn't get attached to anger, jealousy, pain and pride for longer. At the base of their mind, children are filled with a dedicated affection.

Mother Bala Tripura Sundari is the representation of that purity in mind and thoughts.

Considering the UPASANA of Mother Goddess Parvathi - other forms of worship (Mahakali Upasana or Durga Upasana) were subjected to misinterpretation and misguidance during the course of time. SHAKTI UPASANA is far beyond the common man's reach due to many constraints that prevail today.

 

 On the other hand, worship of Bala Tripura Sundari is considered to be the safest of SATVIK Goddess worship and is believed to purify a person to the core with the child-like innocence, affection and detachment with negative feelings.